Why Do Guys Always Want What They Don't Have?

Next door to me lives a nice young man of 18. Let's call him Football Jock. I have a 16 year old daughter. Do you see the problem already?

The kids have known each other all their lives. Although we all are in and out of each other's homes regularly, they don't socialize together due to the age difference, plus they attend different schools.

He's always had an eye for her, but I never worried about it, because girls have been chasing him for as long as I can remember. It's a joke really, in our neighborhood. He's a football player, playing varsity as soon as he started high school. The girls swarm. His girlfriend in his freshman year was at least two years older than him. You get the picture.

So my daughter is cute enough, but boys don't chase her down the street. She has the right amount of attention from boys at her maturity level.

Last week, she told me Football Jock asked her to hang out. She said no, for a minor, but acceptable reason. So he asks her again this week. (huh? Hey, Football Jock, what about all those girls who chase you down the street?)

My daughter said okay this time.

She dressed nicely because she always does. At 7 PM, I see Football Jock's brand new car (gift of Grandma) pull up in front of my house (20 yards from his house, lol). I see him get out of the car to come in to get my daughter!!!

Wait. Why so formal? You're just hanging out.

No. He's dressed up!

Wait. This is a date? Mom falls on the floor. The kids disappear.

Help. He's too experienced for her! Waaaaaaaay too experienced.

What happened here?

The only thing I can think of is this:

She never fell at his feet. When he'd try to flirt (oh, yes, I saw), she didn't respond. She actually turned him down the first time he asked her out. She became a challenge?

Okay, I admit it. I'm freaking out here.
Do guys really have such a need to chase?
Who has some words of wisdom?

1 comment:

Carol Burnside aka Annie Rayburn said...

Oh, gawd. You'd better have a refresher safe-sex talk w/her. Guys next door are either uber-yuck or uber-irresistable. Sounds like you've got the latter.