Hot Kisses and Sexual Tension

"The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial in any love story. It changes the relationship of two people much more strongly than even the final surrender; because this kiss already has within it that surrender." Emil Ludwig

I hope all of you had a wonderful Valentine's Day! Since it's just passed and my Turn Up the Heat! workshop is just around the corner, starting March 2, I thought I'd talk about writing hot kisses into your romance stories. This is a tiny excerpt from my workshop.

The first kiss is an important step in any relationship or romance story. It’s an early destination of what the sexual tension has been building up to thus far. And the kiss also takes the sexual tension to a new, higher level of intimacy. For those who write romance, your reader has been anticipating the first kiss between your hero and heroine since page one. Make it a delicious reward, a feast for the senses. Put the reader right there, kissing your hero because that’s what she wants to do if you’ve heightened the sexual tension enough (and made her fall in love with him.) Let her experience the kiss along with your heroine. That doesn’t mean all kisses need to be from the heroine’s point of view. Far from it. Male point of view kisses can be highly sensual. No matter whose point of view the kiss scene is in, give the reader what she wants. A sizzling hot, yummy kiss.

A question for you: Which book, TV show or movie contains your favorite kiss scene along with heightened sexual tension? If you're a writer, do you enjoy writing kiss scenes (why or why not?)

Workshop: Turn up the Heat! Heightening Sexual Tension and Sensuality in Your Manuscript

Presenter: Nicole North

Date: March 2 - 27, 2009

Description: Editors want to buy spicy-hot romance stories now more than ever before. How do you do it? In this class we will discuss all aspects of sexual tension and sensuality and how they relate to the developing romance in your story. You'll learn tips for successfully building sexual tension over the course of the hero and heroine's relationship from first glance, through climax, to happily ever after. Several examples will be used to illustrate different nuances of hot romantic chemistry and how to employ them in your own story. Learn how to avoid clich├ęs and use sexiness in fresh new ways. Strengthening sexual tension will take your story from ho-hum to so hot and delicious your reader can't put it down. We'll do exercises for hands-on learning. (Please be aware this course contains explicit and frank discussions of sexuality.)

**Topics covered**
Using the five senses more effectively
Sexy talk
Word choice
First kiss
First love scene
How to rebuild sexual tension after sex
Why point of view is important
Hot characters
Combining physical attraction and emotion
Body language
Differences between romance and erotic romance
Revising to make a sensual romance manuscript spicy or erotic

Fun Extras
Visual inspiration
Multimedia examples and exercises

About the presenter: Nicole North writes sensual and erotic romance novels and novellas. She is the author of paranormal erotic romance novellas Devil in a Kilt, Red Sage Secrets Volume 27, July 2009; Beast in a Kilt, Red Sage Secrets Volume 29; and Kilted Lover, Red Sage. She has finaled in over a dozen writing competitions and won several awards. She admits sexual tension and delicious love scenes are her favorite elements of romance and sprinkles them liberally through her stories. What others have said about her works: "This author handles sexual tension very well. Her characters are completely drawn to each other..." and "Wow! Talk about sexual chemistry. This story has it in spades. You're a natural in the romantic chemistry department." She has a BA degree in psychology. Please visit her website to learn more and read past student testimonials:

Cost: $25 non-members / $20 YRW members

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Thank you!


Holly Greenfield said...

First kisses are the bomb! They ratchet up the anticipation of that first love scene. My favorite first kiss scene... hmm... this hard. But since I am a die hard Friends fan, I would have to say one of my favs is Ross and Rachel's first kiss.
Here the Youtube link if you want to watch it:

Also awesome quote in the beginning!! And Nicole's workshop are a lot of fun, I'd recommend one any day!

Anonymous said...

You are correct... that was one terrific kiss scene! Whew!

I'm so glad I saw your blog here today, Nicole. I judged an entry of yours in the Wallflower last year and decided at the time I wanted to take your March class but had totally forgotten. I'm signing up now and looking forward to it!

Nicole North said...

Hi Holly, I loved the Ross and Rachel first kiss! Thanks for the link. Just watched it again. Lots of building sexual tension and emotion behind it. Thanks for the compliment on my workshop! :)

Hi Kim, Woohoo! You were an awesome judge! :) Thanks so much for signing up! I hope you enjoy the class.

Martha Eskuchen said...

Good Post. Thanks. And that is a really NICE Kiss video! There are way too many book kisses for me to remember a favorite. For movies I'd have to go with Last of the Mohicans when Hawkeye kisses Cora at the fort (HOT!).

Nicole North said...

Thanks Martha! I'll have to look for that kiss at YouTube. I saw the movie years ago but can't remember.

Carol Ericson said...

Love that movie, Last of the Mohicans! Your post got me looking at Movie Kisses on YouTube - lots of great ones.

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