What Makes Someone A Good Flirt?

Hi Fierce Friends!
I've never been a good flirt. I'm too self-conscious. Plus I've been married for 20 + years, so I'm sort of out of practice. :) So I need your help -- this week's theme is Flirting and I'm just not an expert when it comes to enticing the opposite sex--except in my books! Somehow it's easier to set up a flirtation between fictitious characters than in real life!


But I know that isn't true for everyone -- what about you, the reader? What makes someone a "good" flirt? What makes YOU a good flirt? And what is it that makes you feel that a guy is interested in you? Is it his eyes? His smile? Something he says? Write a comment here on Fierce Romance and educate me!


I'd also like to hear what you think makes for a good flirt/flirtation in a romance novel.
So tell me . . .



What Makes Someone A Good Flirt?



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6 comments:

Carol Ericson said...

Tess, since I'm blogging about flirting tomorrow, I'm not going to give away all my secrets...yet. But I don't think your marital status should make a difference. Don't you flirt with your husband??? For me (as you'll discover tomorrow), a good flirtation is all about the dialogue. In books, the wittier the better - that's why I'm a big fan of Georgette Heyer.

Ashley Ladd said...

For me, sneaking glances or looking long and hard. I also like witty reparte.

I've been married almost 30 years so I'm out of practice, too.

Stacey Joy Netzel said...

I'm with you on the being too self-conscious to flirt (with strangers). One night my husband and I were in separate rooms (but w/in hearing) on our own computers and he e-mailed me. After a few exchanges with the rest of the house in silence (kids were sleeping), I emailed him, "What are you wearing?" A few seconds later I heard a short laugh from the other room. That's about the extend of our flirting these days. Other than speaking double entrendres (SP?) in front of the kids and then sharing a smile. One of these days though, they're going to figure out what we really said and say, "Gross!" LOL

Natasha said...

LOL Stacey - Our kids ARE old enough and they'll put their hands over their ears and say "Eeew!"
Flirting is all about attitude, I think. And while I love to let my characters flirt (LOVE to write sexy banter), I'd never do it with anyone but my husband

Erin said...

Flirting is about confidence. When I want to flirt with a guy I want him to think that I think that he's fascinating. I maintain eye contact (but not in bug-eyed a creepy way), smile a lot, and touch him a couple of times---arm or chest works good.

Nicole North said...

I completed a novel not long ago where the hero was an uncontrollable flirt. He was always teasing, taunting, smiling and winking at the heroine who just wanted to strangle him. :) He was very much a charming seducer. I had a lot of fun sexy repartee in that one.