What Comes First -- the Physical or the Emotional?

Few moments in a woman’s life top falling in love—whether for the first, second or whatever time. When you look into his eyes. Feel his breath on your cheek as he leans closer to tell you a secret. You place your hand on top of his, and the shared warmth spreads from your fingers to your toes. The way your laughter and his rings in your ears. Your heartbeats travel toward your tongue, and the proper words play hide-and-seek in your mind. His foot bumps yours underneath the table, and you hope the delicious tingling in your body never ends.

Most, if not all, of us have experienced these feelings. When I recently pondered this special moment while plotting another novel, a debate raged within my brain. Woman are romantics. We lose our hearts far more easily than men do. We give our all, promising to love, honor and obey, until death causes a parting of ways. When we meet a new guy and experience the familiar pangs, we sometimes act on our attraction and other times we play it rather coy.

While all this mulling was taking place, I looked back on my past romances. Tried my best at figuring out which ones started as a result of an emotional attraction and which ones were purely physically-driven. Then I realized that, even if I were to ask my old love interests what they thought was the reason they gravitated toward me and a deeper relationship, they truly may not know or respond with the correct answer. And I wouldn’t have a definitive way of knowing the correct answer, either.

How do we really know what initially spurs us to approach another in whom we’re physically or emotionally interested? Is it because we think they are drop-dead sexy and our hormones start raging, or is it because, along with their sex appeal, they’ve always demonstrated a caring attitude toward us and others? Are pheromones coming into play, or is their stroking of our cheek primarily because they want our sorrow to subside, and they touch us only to remove the tears?

Ponder away, readers, and let me know your thoughts.

Wishing you all many happy reading moments,

Shawna Moore
TORMENTED -- Ellora's Cave (MUST-READ from Dark Angel Reviews)
ROUGHRIDER -- Ellora's Cave Exotika
HELLE IN HEELS -- Ellora's Cave Exotika
TO HELLE AND BACK AGAIN -- Coming in 2009 to EC

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Terry Spear/Terry Lee Wilde said...

Have you got an easier question, Shawna??? LOL...two of my daughter's really short-lived "romances" were initiated because the guys thought she reminded them of their ex-girlfriends and they were trying to recapture what they'd had with them. :)Which didn't go over with her.

ShawnaMoore said...

Hi, Terry!

LOL My beloved mom used to say I was born asking questions. Some of them have been bogglers :) With this question, I figured I'd share the boggling with you all :)

Thanks for sharing those thoughts! Very interesting reading guys' takes on why they initiated a relationship :)

Happy week wishes,