tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14738657.post112285269352788420..comments2023-10-22T03:44:10.146-04:00Comments on Fierce Romance: Love from a guy’s point of view?Vonda Sinclairhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16680397260476850190noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14738657.post-1125546789519152632005-08-31T23:53:00.000-04:002005-08-31T23:53:00.000-04:00Hi, Pam! Thanks for visiting! I hadn't thought o...Hi, Pam! Thanks for visiting! I hadn't thought of the hubby analysis thing. But maybe that's it. I put him on the spot. I shouldn't have assumed he would know I was doing romance hero research. LOL! But sometimes, when he doesn't know it, I do sneak an opinion out of him that does help with that male pov. It's very difficult, I admit. LOL!Vonda Sinclairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05248984087135865252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14738657.post-1125545830291875762005-08-31T23:37:00.000-04:002005-08-31T23:37:00.000-04:00Hubby and I will definitely have to see this movie...Hubby and I will definitely have to see this movie. It's rare to find one that we both like.<BR/><BR/>Wonderful discussion on the differences between men and women. I love writing the male pov, but it's a balancing act to try to make the character seem real, yet like a true romance hero. Not that real men can't be romance heroes, but hopefully you know what I mean :)<BR/><BR/>One thing I admire about Karen Robards' work is that her heroes actually seem like real men, instead of like a woman writing a man. However, I've seen reviews where people have disliked that about her work, because they felt the man was too crude/blunt/etc.<BR/><BR/>I've got to comment on you asking your hubby, 'how do you feel when such and such happens' :) My friend's hubby is a psychiatrist and every time we saw them, I would pray that he wouldn't start asking me things like 'so, how would you describe your relationship with your siblings' (and yep, he asked me that once). I just always felt like he was analyzing me. I will admit though that once when I was having problems with my teenager, I was more than willing to call him and tap into his knowledge :) He gave me some wonderful advice, too. Unfortunately, they moved about a year ago, and I missed them terribly :( <BR/><BR/>Anyway, maybe your hubby thinks you're trying to analyze him? Naturally, the problem with that is the possibility that you might find him lacking. Not that you would, but still, he might think that. Of course, I really have no idea what I'm talking about, LOL.<BR/><BR/>--PamAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14738657.post-1123007732189044442005-08-02T14:35:00.000-04:002005-08-02T14:35:00.000-04:00My own unprofessional opinion? LOL! A little of ...My own unprofessional opinion? LOL! A little of both (in romance.) The men in our stories need to seem and feel real in all ways. (Three dimensional and well-rounded.) But at the same time, romance heroes are often "the ideal". And they're usually more heroic, more sexy, more fearless, more attentive than real men. Not that real men aren't these things but a lot of romance heroes are larger than life. But they still must seem they could be real people. I don't know if that makes sense. :-)Vonda Sinclairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05248984087135865252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14738657.post-1122964069566021802005-08-02T02:27:00.000-04:002005-08-02T02:27:00.000-04:00I don't know how skilled I am at it, but I do enjo...I don't know how skilled I am at it, but I do enjoy writing from the male POV. The question I always have: should we write it the way women WISH men thought/felt? Or, the way they probably in fact, DO? LOLRandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01472972660086103611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14738657.post-1122901243681062842005-08-01T09:00:00.000-04:002005-08-01T09:00:00.000-04:00It's easier than you think. Men are a lot simpler ...It's easier than you think. Men are a lot simpler than women. (Forgive me, guys, I say this with affection.) Have you ever heard a man say that women are complicated? It's true; we are. But most men aren't complicated. 95% of what they think about is sex. Okay, maybe that's an exaggeration. But it's a high % anyway. Again not their fault. They're wired that way. And though men don't do well expressing themselves emotionally, they still feel emotion strongly. That often leaves them emotionally bottled up inside and sometimes confused about why they're feeling a certain way. Another thing, (straight) men don't want to be seen as less of a man in other men's eyes. They have to constantly compete and measure up. I find men very interesting creatures. :-) And "getting inside their minds" when I'm writing is fascinating and rewarding. :-) Am I saying I totally understand everything about men? No, but trying to is fun.Vonda Sinclairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05248984087135865252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14738657.post-1122865555986733692005-07-31T23:05:00.000-04:002005-07-31T23:05:00.000-04:00As a fellow writer, I have a better POV from a fem...As a fellow writer, I have a better POV from a female’s perspective. I wish I could understand the male psyche, but I just can't...I just can't--but wouldn't it be great to understand them! To actually understand men! What a concept!Ms. Mikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14361245851729706589noreply@blogger.com