Fabulous at...er Just Fabulous

I had a birthday a few weeks ago, and my age always surprises me. I feel no different, really, than when I was 20 or 30 or...whatever. I know people perceive me differently. It all started years ago when box boys at the grocery store began referring to me as "ma'am." Shocked the hell out of me. When did I become a ma'am?

We recently bought our boys an Xbox (they're probably the last kids in the universe to get a gaming system - at least that's what they told us). We bought the Guitar Hero game, and my boys think it's kinda funny that Mom has created her own band and I race them to the game so I can play my guitar before them. But I'm really not doing it for their amusement at their "wacky" mom. I really enjoy it! In fact, I'm going to buy the karaoke game too. My husband rolls his eyes because he understands, as my boys don't, that I am really into it, and I'm not playing just to connect with my kids (that's just a side benefit). LOL

That outer perception vs. the inner feeling got me thinking about male/female relationships too. I think women are much more self-conscious about how others perceive them. If older men realize that younger women think they're "old," they don't seem to care. They'll date younger women with impunity anyway! Maybe that's why we see fewer older women/younger men couples. Women are more acutely aware of how that younger man may perceive them. Which brings me to Samantha Jones, the sensual, sexually uninhibited character on Sex and the City.

I haven't seen the movie yet, but the release of the movie prompted me to start renting the series from the first season. I watched the show on HBO from the beginning, but never saw those episodes again after their original airing. I've watched Season 1 and I'm half-way through Season 2. Samantha is just as man-hungry in the early episodes as the later ones, with a little difference. In the later episodes, she makes a big deal out of sleeping with younger men...and she has no qualms about it.


So what do we really think about those May-December romances? Have you written or read any lately? Would you date a younger guy? And I'm not talking 3-5 years younger; I mean 10-15 years younger. I have my younger guy all picked out (if my husband would allow it!). He's a 20-something swimmer, who teaches swimming at our local pool - longish, chlorine-inspired blond hair and a fantastic, swimmer's body. You know something funny? He looks very much like my college boyfriend, who was a swimmer. Some things never change!

9 comments:

Nicole North said...

Hot post, Carol! I'm a Sex and the City fan. Can't wait to see the movie. I love the younger man (Jason Lewis) scenario on the show. If the younger man is hot like him, yep, I'm all for it. LOL I know a couple of women who are married to younger men and they seem very happy. One is about 5 yrs younger and the other is about 10 yrs younger.

Carol Ericson said...

Nicole, I'm not so sure I want to see the movie. It looks like something bad happens to Big, or the wedding doesn't come off. I loved the way the show ended when Big "rescues" Carrie from Paris and then we see Carrie walking down the streets of NYC and she gets a call on her cell, checks the display, and it's from "John," the first time in the entire season we learn his real name. Loved that! (Those writers should have written the last episode of The Sopranos! LOL)

Liane Gentry Skye said...

Like you, Carol, I'm just now discovering Sex and the City. But I've been a certified cradle robber for quite a while. :) All I have to say is yeah, baby, get 'em while they're young and raise them right. :)

Carol Ericson said...

LOL, Liane. Actually, I started watching Sex (the show, that is) from the very first season. Just never watched any re-runs, so I haven't seen some of those shows for over 6 years. When I was younger, I didn't prefer younger men. Always went for my age or a few (1-5) years older. (My hubby is 4 years older than I am.) Now that I'm older, however, those young guys look pretty good.

Edittorrent said...

I dated a (much) younger man for a while. Young men have lots of stamina. ;) ;)

Honestly, though, I had no idea how old he was when we started dating, and neither one of us really cared. I think the age difference mattered more to our friends than to us.

Theresa

Carol Ericson said...

Theresa, stamina coupled with technique and experience sounds like a divine cocktail to me! Better than a cosmopolitan any day...

Sandy said...

LOL Carol, you've got it so right when you say men could care less what anyone else thinks. With a young gal, they have a trophy and they flaunt it. It's a real ego booster for them. This comes from a woman whose dh is 8 1/2 years older than her. Would I date a younger man? Only if I were still in perfect shape. lol

Sandy

Rita St. Claire said...

I'm all in favor of older woman/younger man. I've seen a number of such relationships work out beautifully.

Elen Grey said...

Interesting topic. I love Samantha and all of her flaws. The actor who played her younger lover really rocked. Kim Cattrall did a great job of portraying Samantha. Did you ever read her book - Sexual Intelligence? Beautiful cover shot of her, I thought. I digress.

No, I haven't read any May-December romances lately, at least where the female is December. I wouldn't mind, but I think my limit falls around ten years. Never say never, however. :-) My sweetie is five years older than me. Both my mother and a sister married younger men.